Interesting title for an article. One that I wouldn’t imagine you would think I would EVER write. I decided I would take a stab at it and ask the question to everyone ‘Do Father’s Matter?’
I loved my father. He was a wonderful man, and I have very fond memories of both him and my mother, and I miss them both dearly. My dad mattered and although I probably didn’t always show him that, I’m certain he knew that he mattered to me.
I ask this question today seasoned with a bit tongue and cheek, and I hope you’ll keep reading and ask the question yourself. Eleven days ago, the internet was blanketed with heart felt posts about father’s and what they mean. Much like mother’s day, we pay tribute to the parent of the moment showering them with compliments, flowers, a nice lunch or in dad’s case socks, undies, maybe a cold beverage and a few snags on the barbie. The day is set aside, and we celebrate.
Don’t get me wrong, I love both Mother’s and Father’s Day, and I think they are great days to celebrate. Honouring the job they do, and the role they play in the lives of their children, grandchildren, the community is wonderful.
I guess what I’m trying to get at today is, do we honour and pay tribute on that first Sunday in September (for Dad’s) and then forget? Or, do we continue to honour throughout the year? The exact question could and should be asked post Mother’s Day, and I might put it out there when the time rolls around again. But for now, I want to focus on the Dad’s and being one week out from Father’s Day are we still honouring the men in our lives? The Father’s, the Husband’s or have we slipped back into the same-old, same-old?
It’s easy to do, and I’m sure we’ve all done it year-after-year. The shimmer wears off, the day has passed for another year, and we simply slip into old habits. Wouldn’t it be amazing if we stayed in that place of value, respect and honour? If we truly treated one another that way every day. Would it be hard? Probably at first but after awhile it would hopefully become natural and healthy. Preferring each other, valuing each other’s time, giving honour and using our words and actions to back everything up.
I’ve heard it said that you let people know how to treat you. What if we let them know how to treat us by showing them through the way we treated them? I’ve also heard it said ‘if you put the vision in front of people they will rise’. What if the vision we placed in front of our partners, our children, our friends and even extended it to our community and that vision was exemplified through our consistent honouring and valuing of others.
You may be reading this and saying, ‘I already do that, Sue’. If that’s you then great, keep doing it because the world is a better place because you’re living and giving from your true self, from the overflow in your life. If you’re reading and thinking, this is all too hard. Why would I, I don’t have the energy, or perhaps you think nothing will ever change. May I be so bold as to remind you of the golden rule which says, ‘Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.’
Friends, to answer my original question, ‘Do Father’s Matter?’ My answer is ABSOLUTELY, and they should be celebrated not only on Father’s Day but every day and, in fact, so should we all.
Make a difference in someone else’s life today. Let them know they matter. Let them know you care. You don’t need to use Instagram, Facebook or an amplifier, let your words and actions convey the message. It will make a difference not only to them but the benefits will be felt throughout the hearts who call your place home.