I was scrolling through Instagram today and came upon a post that caused me to pause and think. It was shared by a friend of mine and I think it’s something we should all pause and consider. The post said ‘Be the woman who fixes another woman’s crown without telling the world it was crooked.’ How beautiful is that? Read it a few times and let it really sink into your heart and mind.
Life can be challenging and at times downright hard and not every day is lined with happiness and blissful moments. We have all been there and when we find ourselves in that place, there is nothing better than a sweet friend who will hold our hand through it all and who will slightly adjust our crowns for us.
Have you ever been in one of those situations when a woman has come out of the toilet stall and she’s just about to leave after washing her hands and you notice that her skirt is tucked into her underwear? Or, perhaps you’ve seen someone with their zip on their pants undone. It’s always an awkward moment when you have to approach them, they don’t know you and they are slightly anxious, wondering why you’re approaching them. Then you tell them and the awkwardness gets even worse because they feel the need to run away from you as quickly as possible. It’s that weird moment where you have quietly and gently let someone know that they’ve had a wardrobe malfunction all in an effort to kindly help them continue on with their day avoiding any further embarrassment.
Fixing a crown without telling is much the same. It’s that gentle and quiet approach where our only desire is to help and we don’t broadcast it. That means we don’t tell anyone, it doesn’t become coffee conversation nor does it become part of a prayer circle in an effort to share without gossiping. It means risking the awkwardness afterwards by the person you’ve helped who doesn’t know how to thank you or how to engage in the aftermath. It also means being prepared for someone to do the same to and for you because from what I’ve come to learn in life, we truly do reap what we sow.
This is the kind of woman I want to be and hope I am. This is the kind of woman we should all endeavour to be. One that will fix a crown and hold truth and confidence in our hands. One who will risk the awkwardness to provide safety and comfort and one who will quietly walk alongside a sister as we journey through life.
May you have a wonderful week and may you begin to see the crowns that need your gentle touch.